Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Run Stage (Motivated)

"A complete about face... You avoid procrastination... You have the ability to make things happen... You just go out and do it... You drop the victim mentality... You create your own world... You do all that and so much more surprisingly at the same time not making new enemies in the process... "
Run Stage

Analogy is that you are now riding a three-wheeled vehicle. More stability but still not as many on the top would want it, right? Make sure you already read about the "Crawl Stage" and the "Walk Stage" before reading this.

Emotions
These may be some of your most dominant emotions.
You experience a re-awakening of the young human Values you possess. Strong feelings of Love, Charity, Justice, Hope, Temperance, Order and Fortitude etc are deeply felt.
You are taking these Values and their fruits of knowledge and skills to new heights.
Passion for learning and helping are much much stronger.
You have less fears but with healthy doses of anxiety.
Your greatest obstacles are your very own bad habits that you try to identify, monitor and improve on everyday ...everyday.
You feel time moving so fast. You are motivated /driven.
You are willing to grow your Values, knowledge and skills beyond your diploma beyond retirement.
Your growing Values help give you an unexplainable kind of security and freedom.
Much of your fears of investing and borrowing money may be gone because you are learning how to manage risks. 
You forgive the repentant.
You tame the proud with your meekness and wisdom. You gain respect. You reflect positive qualities and others could feel it.
You don't make tantrums when your honor is smeared. You know that there will always be mature people who know you better.
You feel relatively alone because there are a few like you.
You may feel the same feelings as those in the crawl or walk stage. But you developing feelings that are more characteristic of the next stage (fly stage).

Goals
These may be some of your goals.
Despite living a fair to good life, the degree of empathy you try to develop allows you more to accommodate and embrace more risks, stress and workload acting to improve the life of others beyond your family or the limited reach of your "diplomas" or formal academic /vocational training. You are among the few who realize that empathy (among many other skills) can allow human civilization to move forward to a better future.
Your  salary more than meets your basic needs. But you need the leverage of partnership to help other people beyond your current reach. Your partners believe in your plans.
You may plan to quit your job soon so you can start spending more time with your family and other more important things other than work (job).
Your dream is a lot bigger.
You found a higher purpose and meaning in life.
You live below your means even if you can afford some luxuries.
You plan to delay gratification for a few years (maybe 3-5 years) to achieve even higher unselfish goals.
You want to build wealth for the long-term (not short term to end around retirement) at the same time develop fortitude, faith, determination, perseverance and a burning desire that would never fade.
You know that sudden riches without the proper mindset and skill-set or emotional maturity would be short-lived.
You seriously plan for early retirement.
You align your risk tolerance to an appropriate asset allocation strategy. You either adapt a balanced asset allocation strategy or an aggressive "enhanced growth" strategy. Emergency fund is respectable (15-20% of income).
You know that personal insurance will protect you as the primary income generator while you make your initial run.
Aside from paying taxes, you try to "pay yourself" and specifically reserve that for future investments. You now do not work to save to occasionally pamper yourself ...but you now try to save more to grow your tangible and intangible wealth in order to help empower others.
You plan to compete with the "established value-poor cash-rich abusive people" so that the less empowered will have much better alternatives.

Skills
You are beginning to hear about the more appropriate skill-set you never took seriously.
You know you have to develop those necessary life skills skills for tangible and intangible wealth building.
You understand  "good debt" and leverage more than ever. You know they are just among the many alternative tools.
Your job earns you a nice monthly salary (probably nothing or probably 10-750 thousand pesos) but you just can't wait to grow your assets so you can possibly quit your job entirely (if you had any) at the soonest possible chance.
You now realize that jobs are really risky in the long term (it takes so much of your valuable time that should have been spent for your own dreams rather than another persons dreamworld) and so now you regard your job as transitional or a stepping stone ...to be replaced with smarter options as you prepare for possible early retirement from that old job to take on new work that builds your dreams.
You may be trying to develop entrepreneurial skills or you may be trying to set up a non profit organization for the benefit of a bigger community. Or you may just be linking your projects with established benevolent industrialists or financial angels since you do not focus to much on money.
Your financial vocabulary and communication skills may be growing fast.
You are beginning to write a more serious but attainable short- and long-term financial plans with considerable detail and with real deadlines.
Asset allocation strategy is being geared for balanced or enhanced growth.Your asset column if being flooded by intangible assets.
You are better able to track all your resources and expenses...
Adding, reading and analyzing numbers now interests you. You may not know how to deal with numbers or math but you understand how to use them. You know what to count.
You have better budgeting skills.
You are more aggressive.
Your emergency fund and intangible contingencies will last for long periods of time.
You understand the life of successful people (cash-poor asset-rich people).
You begin learning how to write ...including letters asking support for your charitable projects. You like selling...selling mostly good ideas (not necessarily commodities/products) to other people who readily buys them.
Improving interpersonal skills. Improving emotional intelligence. Increasing number of people who respect you. Decreasing number of people you hurt. You are trying to develop people skills to attract people to your causes.
Improving systems skills. Better time management skills. Better organizational skills to run your cause or project.
Better leadership skills to lead your staff.
Your survival skills are better.
You love life and you "walking the talk". You have basic skills to save lives.
Cash-rich, asset-poor abusive people do not understand you and thinks you are crazy because intangible assets are not that significant in their way of life.

Order: Slowly strengthened and  achieved by skills mentioned above.
Restraint: Materialistic thoughts and negative feelings are tamed.
Justice: You are more forgiving even to unpleasant people...yet you guard the defenseless and oppressed.
Fortitude: No one can stop you from defending the poor..and winning the battle..you conquered fear itself.
Compassion: You see your old helpless self in other needy folks. You are more empathic ... and you take ACTION because you are growing the SKILLS
Love: Enriched by the above-mentioned values.

Asset flow pattern
Your cash flow pattern begins to follow that of the rare genuine asset rich people. Your salary/active income/earned income answers your basic living expenses for now. You plan to let a growing passive income shoulder all your expenses soon. Passive income (in contrast to active income above) is still building up but still inadequate to be the one answering basic living expenses.
You can identify real assets from liabilities. You have discovered their real meanings.
Your lifestyle is not excessive because you can easily control your liabilities.
Lifestyle is slim and trim. You want a simpler, safer house or car.
You are learning to read financial statements.
You believe that the increasing velocity of passive income is more important than stagnant positive cash flow.
You are on the hunt for better opportunities.
You use the leverage of "good debts" that may fuel your first wealth building assets.
You have adequate resource or credit in case of emergency.
A child is considered a blessing rather than some sort of investment or financial vehicle. Alternative education (which you may have personally concocted) augments a carefully selected educational system for your child (if any) and are among your top concerns.
Health is wealth. Values, knowledge and skills are wealth. Intangible wealth becomes more stimulating than sensationalized news or material wealth.


Team
You have an accountant.
You may or may not have a lawyer in your team.
You hire professionals who can drive your investment vehicle the way you want it.
You are trying to build a solid team whose members are always far specialized than you.  You are seriously and actively trying to surround yourself with people or professionals (as mentioned above) who are specialized in their own fields that can help you reach your higher goals faster. You  leverage on their skills.
You look up to your mentor (if any) who has more solid experience.
Your friends and some family members seek advice from you.


Recommended activities to achieve this stage and prepare for the next stage may be posted below..


18 comments:

  1. Work on your Values ... values that even world religions fail to discuss in detail and develop in people ....and thus fail to keep the world as it should be ... expound on the teachings of your religion or disciplines of your philosophies in life ...understand them with your own Hearts'... and regardless of your accomplishments, regardless of what might happen in your world... our world.. regardless of how bad it may seem... you and I will be okay. All is well inside us ... that is all that really matters.

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  2. Our own preferences and biases restrict our access to our full potential... they are nothing but poor attention filtering.. a developmental lag that can be traced to childhood... examine them very carefully, see how we have shrunk our world...limiting our opportunities... creating the global problems we have today .....

    Re-open those young Hearts to new possibilities and become part of the Answers to our global problems... do not be afraid ...it is time we expand our WILL to accommodate ever expanding LOVE that knows no boundaries..

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  3. Back to basics? Remember the time when Love was a precursor Value manifested during our childhood as love, hugs and kiss stuff... well what happened to those after we became deeply entangled in our work and career and hectic schedules... seemingly they are winning the tug of war against our time to greet people from the heart..to ask how they are doing...to feel empathically... and to communicate our feelings and beliefs and thoughts that might become useful to them... whatever happened to them as a result of this created apparent necessity to complete work, to get salary, to pay the bills...all ...in order to make our loved ones happy... what does this long detour got to do with Love?...who built this terrible detour in life? did we dream this?why are we in this dream reality world today? who created it?why did I and you play along?...

    ...you know what.. regardless if it is happening or not, it is time we take back our lives... be aware of what is happening... push aside the baggages of culture and colored perception and really try to think and feel with our Heart what is really happening around...checking ignoring our biases...minding our thoughts that have taken root on much deeply seated pains of past experiences...look at life fresh from newer eyes... why are we so addicted to currency?.. some use drugs as currency..some use oil as currency... most of us below the food chain use money as currency... we became so addicted to it that we can not dream of a world without it... possible things are now impossible for us...if we really place our Heart there, we will create our world based on physical credits... and I believe we will create that if we decide that it is the way to go...but...

    Now for those who feel like giving more weight to intangible stuff without really totally abandoning the physical stuff yet (as we still need them for out physical bodies), you and I better find or make time, invest time, and create plenty more time for intangible stuffs.

    While building the Value of Love, we build the required Values of Compassion, Justice, Restraint, Fortitude and Order and whatever you want to add. I tell you straight right now that we can never complete Love if we are disorderly or disorganized, unjust, impulsive, weak-willed, and unwilling to act on our positive feelings..it just won't cut it, would it? really now? People in high places never really bothered stressing that simple point to us after all this time.

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  4. ....So now that you and I are beginning to know what to do. Let's do our thing and make this place a better world slowly...starting from our small circles to expand our reach to places we never thought possible.

    Reset our minds (cognitive health and life), our Heart, our dreams, our goals, our diet, health, exercise, life..

    Now it's time to build on those hugs and kiss skills and begin building on adult forms of Love which definitely includes Empathy and Cooperation, Heart to Heart communication, daily acts of Compassion, sharing (dole out initially) which by the way should immediately be transformed to Interdependence ...that could only happen as soon as we empower the needy. You already know that indefinite dole outs does not work for it conditions the receiver or needy to become permanently needy... Hello Pavlov ...yet we see a lot of dole outs in politics and entertainment don't we? an effective mode of control leading to dependency instead of interdependency... think and choose the voice that you would like to listen to.

    We all need each other no matter how unskilled the other person/party is. Yes and we just have to find a way to tame the abusive types who are addicted to their linear lifestyles. Those people have anxieties and allergies of being used (or abused) as children and so they form a strong reaction all their remaining lives to constantly avoid those traumatic childhood memories by doing all they can to be on top (all the time and they hope that it lasts for the rest of their adult lives).

    What we do is find a way to "wash their feet but poke their Hearts". Easier said than done ...but hey if you feel the challenge at action level (when you actually do something) as against brain level (when you just think of doing the uncomfortable act).. then that challenged feeling has actually made a tremendous change inside you to restructure your being into someone stronger... try it the second time and the discomfort of doing it has now gone away. Try it.

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  5. Empathy during conflict/debates/misunderstandings

    1 Examine yourself and your thoughts biases

    2 Listen objectively...noting how you color another persons experience with your experience, interpretatios, biases, baggages

    3 Try to search for any semblance of a point of agreement in the ideas of the other person. Express that point of agreement verbally with appropriate timing...this will "disarm" a person with safety off and shooting words/ideas at you.. matuto ka mambola ng hindi halata at matanda ka na!

    4 Put yourself in his shoes and try to understand his perspective. Summarize his words. Try to describe what he is probably feeling. Don't be afraid to ask clarifying questions. ..to identify incorrect perceptions

    5 Then express your own ideas and feelings (even if contrary to his) directly but very respectfully

    6 Express an attitude of respect and say something good often ...or say something good only after a heated debate...not during the skirmish.

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  6. Assets versus Liabilities

    It is necessary that we learn what is meant by assets and liabilities.

    Intangible Assets are things that put Value into your being. The lack of it creates intangible liabilities. Assets fill your hunger. Liabilities consumes your life.

    If there is Love, then there is no hate.

    Where there is no Charity, there is greed.

    If there is no Justice, then there is injustice.

    When there is Temperance, there is no gluttony.

    Tangible assets are things that put credits into your pocket. While the tangible liabilities take credit from your pocket. Tangible assets can also feed you while tangible liabilities will also eat you alive.

    So a big house that needs constant maintenance is a liability unless you convert it to a rental house producing money more than its maintenance cost. Understanding the math is much more simpler than doing it.

    So what about your partner... your wife....child? ... An asset?.... A liability?... Both, as some would rationalize? ...

    Rather than treat them like financial instruments, I personally suggest that we regard them as living equals who could give us an opportunity towards cooperation. They are therefore neither assets or liabilities...even if they are still incapable of expressing Love to the fullest (as we all probably are)....rather they are a Blessing, a Gift... A much needed companion as we begin to discover the abundance of Life together in an infinite universe beyond our crib.

    Abundance in tangible assets is therefore nothing if you do not have a warm companion who shares his/her Values with you. It is not real abundance. It is not real riches. Cash rich is not the same as Asset rich. Would you rather be Asset rich? Then I invite you to read on...

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  7. my grammar is just so so so very ridiculous... grrrrrrr... never mind...the message is more important that the medium ....grrrrrrrr

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  8. Imagine what our world will be like if we engage in gradually expanding environmental and humanitarian endeavors instead of constantly upgrading our "transient" material possessions that produce a lot of waste.

    Just IMAGINE. Then let's talk how to make it Happen.

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  10. nearly everyone is ill-equipped ... with still growing Hearts and skills that are badly needed to tackle global problems.... all some could think of right now is to "spread word", "poke" here and there....we never understood that it takes Real Love to be able to develop the necessary skills to do the work to solve global problems even if we are just everyday ordinary people

    ...still work in progress.. a lot of areas have incomplete discussion in this blog... need to rest fingers typing.

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  11. With failure to achieve foresight control as adolescents, people often find it difficult to look into the future to ensure success... they become incapable of managing risks in the form of laying safety nets.

    Contingency thinking came from well-developed foresight control and other output controls. It is a skill usually mastered or possessed by more successful people who are determined to win /realize their Hopes and Dreams.

    It is a product of long colorful experiences... of prior agonizing failures...

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  12. Find alternative sources of clean drinking water

    Find alternate sources of clean food; learn how to grow and cook food.

    Learn first aid, basic life support and basic home remedies.

    Learn how to do laundry

    Learn how to ride bicycles; good for your health; good for short distance errands; cheapest are sold at 2.5k; Life goes on even with upcoming skyrocketing fuel prices- alternatively, move close to work and just walk.

    Learn basic self defense.

    In other words, re-learn to be a boy or girl scout.

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  13. Improving Memory

    A lot of tips are online to help improve memory including :

    Back and forth horizontal eye movements for 30 seconds allegedly improves remembering words to by at east 10-15%

    30 minute cat naps in the afternoon usually clears your short term memory by converting them to long term memory. Refreshed or recharged short term memory can then be used later in the day.

    Grapes or blueberries, diet or memorizing on an empty but not hungry stomach

    Puzzle solving

    Aerobic exercises

    Meditation, prayer or relaxation techniques

    Active social life

    I think the most effective way is to keep taking all the opportunities that we meet to use our brain. That is the hidden principle here. If we don't push our brains often, it won't produce and recycle the necessary chemicals it needs to sustain its cells and organic matrix. It undergoes atrophy or it shrinks with non use and/or with complacency and old age. Practice your memory regularly. Do activities that will tap both lobes of your brain whether you are a right or left lobe dominant person. You are awakening masters of it. Add some to your existing technique, experiment and do what works for you.

    So from now on, we can all enjoy better memory retention...What was your name again? LOL

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  14. Still afraid or frustrated by failures?

    The short term failures themselves can take you to a more stable future... appreciate your frustrations and just fail your way to success hahaha ..Or would you rather smooth sail to your apparent destination to suddenly experience total failure (due to lack of learned skills) while you are on top?

    Your long term goal is to learn from occasional failures believing you could do better in the long run.

    Fear and frustration are therefore flushed down the drain... they are not totally gone yet... they are still... there but they barely nag you now that they are away.

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  15. Problem-Solution Filter

    This is one of the most commonly encountered stumbling blocks. There is unrecognized abundance of solutions to every type of problem imagined. The real task is not finding a solution from scarcity but finding the best solution(s) from a seemingly unlimited choice deeply seated within us. Remember that any problem and their appropriate answers have been in us all this time. We do not act alone but we act as a collective unit. More heads are better than one on condition that they all have the appropriate tools and have the proper mindset.

    Since a given problem can be solved in so many different ways, we can start by listing as many solutions as we can think of. Try to find out if you'll use one solution or a combination of solutions.

    Never jump in and use the first thing that comes to your mind with very few exceptions such as emergencies. Anyway, our response to such scenarios have actually been anticipated and already studied before it ever happens. Thus even emergency situations are confronted with solutions that have been well thought of in advance.

    Among the growing list, take note of the most obvious and place it aside. The brainstorming group must try to understand the process in question and theoretically divide the process into about three stages. I call this as simple deconstruction phase. Study each process and find parallel occurrences from nature or from everyday life. Play around the currently accepted concepts and list any ideas that may be placed on the table regardless if it sounds so absurd at that moment. We can find parallel ideas from nature, we can oppose, or we can exaggerate the ideas and see what will come of it. I call that phase as simple brainsuperstorming phase. Attempt to integrate the seemingly absurd ideas with the specific problematic process under scrutiny/study. I call this phase as simple integration. If you are very interested to understand this by taking an example to illustrate how it is done, write a comment and identify a problem (I will not guarantee that we will be able to solve the problem, but I can guarantee one of the best experience in problem solving you may have yet encountered).

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  16. Problem-Solution Filter continued...

    Summarize any potential solution that may come out. Discuss what you think about it, what you feel about it and what you believe should be taken into consideration.

    Discuss potential obstacles by checking what is currently available. Then shift the group's focus to determine the solution's doability or feasibility also by checking what is currently available.

    Repeat the above process by picking a few more ideas from your solution list with apparent potential.

    Be decisive and choose the best option for serious implementation.

    Expose the infant early to the concept that there are many solutions to one problem through simple games. Expose to sounds and color of nature.

    Do the same for the older child. Let her understand how nature has arranged the dynamics, behavior and structure of living and non living things to maintain harmony. Let her develop a good sense of humor which may be of great help in advanced problem solving. Talk with her about the obstacles that he encounters. Let her solve the problem herself if she has the motivation. You may demonstrate how it is done initially but be careful not to over do it such that she becomes dependent on you every time she faces a problem. Let her always take time out before implementing an obvious solution. Let her think of the many other possible alternatives and choose what is best by elimination of the weaker solutions. Under limited time, she must learn also to think faster through the options. Demonstrate how she can deconstruct, brainsuperstorm and integrate ideas and form solutions.

    For adults, do the same. Let them learn about critical or analytical thinking, lateral thinking and creative thinking. It is not a one-man show so it is not bad to get help in finding alternative solutions to problems. Life is not an exam or test where people should not collaborate on the best answers to question. Work in a group and actively participate in problem solving activities. Merge your minds and move as a unit at one time building ideas or at another time quality testing them. Grab every opportunity by practicing at work or in your extracurricular activities. But be ready to develop the capacity to orchestrate the problem solving activity as leader or moderator in a group. Be serious in taking advantage of such opportunities to learn since you will need it in the future where you may need to put up your own projects. Habits are hard to break in the adult, so prepare those fancy tools such as your thoughts and concepts (icons or images), feelings, beliefs, Values, etc.

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  17. Emotional intelligence can be viewed as having the ability to react with appropriate feelings and express them in a socially acceptable manner.



    It also involves previewing your desired character, taming your emotional bias and perspective, considering options and pacing, evaluating if your responses/behaviour are compatible with your desired character and reputation in mind and gaining from past experiences to make adjustments or improvements that you may find necessary. The emotionally intelligent individual gives close attention to their feelings and the feelings of others.



    Reclusive people are likely not that concerned about how others view them. Dependent people are overly concerned with it to the point that they may over-analyze what they perceive other people think of them .



    Interdependent people can express themselves clearly without leaving the dependent people feeling some sort of separation anxiety or the reclusive people becoming uncomfortable with closeness. He knows who to approach at the right time and at the right places. They are very much aware of their social mission. And yes, they are also capable of intense emotional outbursts or repressions when necessary.



    Let the infant go through the basic activities that can help him acquire proper attention controls.



    Let the adolescent be familiar with the different types of hearts and minds of people in different stages of development as I enumerated in my blog.



    Let the adult master the skills of taming his thoughts and emotions and consciousness. Regardless if your brain has been wired for wild emotions or not, you have better chances of taming them if you start working on yourself early in life. If you are a late bloomer, try meditation and reserve the negative reinforcement schemes such as lobotomy as a last and silly resort. Of course I am joking.

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  18. We can see Love only if we all begin creating It - Al Cal

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