Crawl Stage (Dependence)

"There was this poorly nourished kid; he woke up again for the nth time hungry. He was awaiting for his father who he knew just went out to find him food...it has been days now. He fell asleep again and in his dream...there he saw a woman carrying an infant in her weak forearm ... With eyes almost crying just as if she was begging for water for the dehydrated infant in her falling arms. The little infant, wrapped in a dirty thin linen, had very thin limbs partly exposed to the humid caressing winds, dark skinned, dry open mouth... flies occasionally land on the infant's cracking lips...

This dreaming malnourished kid was moved .... Grasped her plastic bowl still with some water ...stretched his arms to the teary eyed woman ... He was actually offering her his last can of water... Before the woman could reach the water ...he fell asleep within his dream ....this time it was different. He woke up and he somehow was not hungry. He did not realize he died.

Now the next scenes are mixed with a story that I can not recall where I got. As this malnourished boy in the above story was taken with the winds...he saw kids with a different skin color, accompanied by healthy adult women trying to celebrate the ceremonious opening of a small drinking well which was actually funded by a teen-aged boy who traveled from afar now standing there. This donor boy actually worked and earned a few hundred dollars in his home country ....within  his community... practicing all the life , organizational, selling, planning and orchestration skills he has at a young age ...after having been inspired and moved by what he saw on television one day. I can not recall the details where I read something that narrates this but somehow these pictures got stuck on my memory. 

I see genuine human values of Love, Charity, Compassion, Fortitude, Justice and Order in both kids ... both gave everything they had... They are not in the "crawling stage" as we would think... 

The first scenario may not happen everyday ...but the second scenario ...which is more complex ...actually did happen.... I hope this can inspire some of us..."

Crawl Stage

 

Below is a rough list. The final format may be a questionnaire form that can be tallied and analyzed to roughly point where one is among the different stages. The ideas may describe the time when we were more dependent. It may be a period when we can not support a lifestyle. This may be analogous to a situation when we ride a one-wheeled vehicle. Looks pretty risky.

Emotions

You need support to keep you alive, breathing, stable and happy.

Your greatest fear is not having enough financial support/salary /resources/ energy.

You cling to job security or a position of borrowed/delegated power.  You may feel you're on top of the world when you eventually get it. You may feel you have all the time in the world.

You are willing and open to work/think harder for longer hours in return for more salary, energy or power.

Feelings of desperation, insecurity, paranoia and doubts may haunt you … especially if you have no job and no liberating skills.

You long for independence and self sufficiency.

You are very sensitive to rejection.  You feel anxious that people may not reciprocate the feeling. This may or may not paralyze you.

You invest much time and energy with feelings and yearnings of getting someone to cling on to.  You over-analyze people ...maybe to the extreme. The innocent actions of others may appear threatening or often misinterpreted.

If the other person provides care, security and reassurance, you feel calm.

You may be the type who can make commitments without much thought.

Goals

These are your primary goals.

You want a better incentive/fee/salary/compensation/education as soon as possible. You wish you had a better job.

You may want to further improve your professional skills as this would equate to a better job.  You value a good scholastic/professional education.
You want a real friend.
You have to live with a guardian or parents.

You want to wean off your dependence on others.

If you may have any serious dream at all, you dream of someone to really take care of you or ... more money/power because you believe it will answer all or most of your problems.

Assets

You have no emergency fund.

You do not keep a separate account for future investments.

You never personally bought yourself a house or car which you believe can be your greatest assets.

You have no permanent address.

You may be living with your family or friends.

You do not have insurance and you may think it is unnecessary.

You borrow money and other tangible assets.

Still building your intangible assets.

There is lack of balance and harmony.

You receive more than you give.

Poor input and output controls or focus and restraint sometimes to the point of abusing others.

Lacking in courage/fortitude

Love, charity and compassion in the form of social smiles, hugs, kisses, embraces.

Skills

These are your present skills.

You may have good to excellent vocational/professional skills.

Your financial skills are very poor.

You may not have any leadership skills.

Poor planning and asset management skills. 

You have a loose financial plan.

You do not keep track of your spending habits.

Adding, reading and analyzing numbers may not interest you much. You have no time counting your daily/weekly/monthly expenses.  You think it is a waste of time.

You may have all the skills above but you tend to take advantage of everything and everyone you can get your hands on

You don't think much about your own safety or others safety.

Some may mostly be concerned  about their own life that smearing it apparently ends everything.  Some may be suicidal just to keep your image untarnished.

You know that life exists but you can not really support life.

Poor bidirectional communication skills. If ever you are good in communications, it is one way and linear.

Asset flow pattern

Your asset flow pattern follows those of the poor. Relatively, you spend (a lot) more than you earn OR you just can not produce (by yourself) enough to satisfy your basic needs.

You may be deep in "bad debt".

Your lifestyle is bare and basic.

Your basic needs are being handled or nearly covered by allowance or "baon" or credit or alimony or pensions. No significant assets you earned by your own sweat ...some may be getting support from tax money contributed by other people (with or without their permission), or support from parents. Some may be emotional vampires (if we talk of the intangibles)

No substantial savings.

You will do anything and everything to source out power/energy/physical needs with or without permission. May exhibit childish or adult type tantrums if deprived.

Team

You get support and advice from this team:

The only advisers you have are your immediate family and a handful of friends (if you have any).

No personal assistants/secretaries. You think they are totally unnecessary.

Recommended extra-curricular activities:

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